How To Avoid Movie Fights With Your Spouse

My husband and I try to have a date night every week, which we think is important after kids. So most Fridays, John and I drop the little ones off at their grandparents’ house for the evening before going out to dinner and a movie.

Problem is, like many couples, we have really different tastes in movies. He loves superhero, horror, and action flicks, whereas I’m a fan of indie flicks, girl comedies, and painfully slow, dialogue-heavy foreign films. Early on, these differences led to more than a little bad-and-forth sniping.

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My husband’s movies

But we found a simple solution: we just trade off. He picks one week and I pick the next, unless we really want to see something that looks like it might leave the theaters soon (in which case, the other person gets to pick for the next two weeks).

This method saved us from constant bickering and has a few other great advantages:

 

  • We see a broader range of films than we otherwise might

Someone once said “a camel is a horse designed by a committee,” and while this may be unfair to camels, they make a fair point.

When you have to reconcile competing goals to please everyone, it waters down your choices. Since we don’t both have to like the movie, we don’t have to stick to “safe” genres.

  • We get to see what we really want

Since the tradeoff started happening, there’s been a fairly predictable schedule of chick flicks one week, then dick flicks the next.

But no one’s complaining. I may not always be in the mood to watch sarcastic renegades blow stuff up, but I’ll try to rally because I know that next week, my husband will sit through two hours of people giving each other quiet, longing looks without any fuss.

Plus, sometimes you can play the odds in your favor. Movies like Ex Machina and Inception were swing votes (either one us us might pick them), so you can gamble by picking whatever other film you wanted to see.

  • Sometimes you love something you never expected to

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My movies

I’ve ended up loving may of my husband’s movie picks, even after being sure I’d hate them. The Iron Man series, for example, and Guardians of the Galaxy, were so much fun that I respected the entire superhero genre more after seeing them.

John was crazy about Life of Pi and Phoenix, both movies he admitted he would’ve never watched if left to his own devices.

Plus, it’s easier to have an open mind about seeing new films when you didn’t throw a fit about seeing them in the first place, because it doesn’t mean admitting you were wrong.

Stepping outside your comfort zone can be a great thing. You get a new perspective. It shakes things up.

And I’m not saying we never get bored or make mild threats (“I swear if you force me to watch The Gift, I will MAKE YOU WATCH ‘THE PERFECT GUY’ THE VERY NEXT WEEK!”), but arguments are minimal.

But sometimes you discover a hidden gem.

This week was Deadpool, so I’m thinking The Maltese Falcon may be on the agenda.

 

 

 

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11 thoughts on “How To Avoid Movie Fights With Your Spouse”

  1. But come on, why would want to get along? Though you are right. I’ve seen a few good movies my wife has picked (though she has also become famous for some huge duds too.), but that is part of the charm. It’s kind of fun to laugh at some horrible movies she picks out and see what she can come up with. And I’ve done some duds too. 🙂

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    1. Haha, true. Same here.

      We’ve stopped arguing 99 % of the time, but still have our moments. There was one movie about a month ago where I finally said, “Is this thing, like, SIX THOUSAND HOURS LONG!?”

      And my husband told me there were just ten minutes left before crying himself laughing.

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  2. I am all about the Iron Man movies, and the Avengers but that’s because I’m all about Robert Downey Jr. Sam and I only go see movies we can both agree on. Thank god he is completely understanding of my love for RDJ and Ryan Reynolds.

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    1. They are hilarious! I never expected to like them, but really got into the Iron Man series.

      And Ryan Reynolds… after leaving Deadpool, I was telling my husband that I appreciated how the movie was very macho yet not very sexist, like it showed off Ryan Reynolds as much as it showed off his girlfriend, for example.

      My husband quickly says, “You think Ryan Reynolds is hot?”

      And I’m all: “Umm, yeah, he’s alright-looking…” (my eyes shooting up and to the right as I change the subject, haha)

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